A real life wonder woman who exudes embodiment.
A working orthodontist who just finished her masters, a writer, an artist, and a lover of all things DC. Meet our SHEeo for this month: Bea Dominguez.
At 29 years old, it seems that Bea is living life to the fullest. Looking at all the hats she wears on the daily, you can say that she's a master at multitasking. She works hard and has a tenacity for pursuing her passions. But besides these qualities, she may have a trump card that's been helping her achieve her goals: a role model.
Some may have outgrown their love for their favorite childhood superheroes, but Bea stuck with hers, and decided to, in her own way, become one too. When asked about it, you can instantly feel her excitement towards the subject. She gleefully shares, "Wonder Woman is part of my identity. Anyone who knows me identifies me as one of her staunch fans. I seek to embody her."
But even though this modern day wonder woman manages to push through herculean tasks, Bea admits that she too has moments of doubt. But she finds comfort in remembering that she's only human who's susceptible to making mistakes so there's no need to dwell. She admits, "Sometimes, all you need is a shift in perspective. We tend to occupy our minds with silly expectations and the pressure to maintain a certain kind of image so much that we forget that we’re human and we’re not meant to be perfect."
In this month's edition, we're all about embodiment and we're taking a page out of Wonder Bea's book for some inspiration. Read below as we talk with the empowered SHEeo about staying inspired during the quarantine, speaking things into existence, and how a comic book character created almost 80 years ago is still inspiring her in real life.
What's your daily routine like this quarantine?
I usually balance work, play, and something I like to call expression in each day of my life. My routine consists of daily meditation, exercise, visiting the clinic, browsing ideas for content and finishing online courses, attending webinars, reading a chapter from one of my open books with whatever I am inspired to read (I don’t read one book at a time), and painting or drawing art pieces. Oh, and I journal daily.
With all the things you have on your plate, how do you manage to juggle everything?
Wearing different hats can be crazy. What helps me balance everything is just a state of mind—which is to take one thing at a time and to do all I can possibly do without over-stretching my precious energy. This is just the mental side of it all. If you want some tactical advice: the key is to balance while practicing self-compassion.
I keep a planner on hand to help me balance everything. I spend only 5-10 minutes reflecting on what I have to do for the next day. Any more than that and you could risk overthinking. I write what my day could possibly look like for 20 minutes, then spend another 10 minutes visualising this written agenda. Finally, I say a few affirming words to speak it into existence.
How are you staying inspired and motivated this quarantine period?
In life, as in quarantine, I’d like to believe that what keeps me inspired is having something to look forward to. It can be simple or grand as long as it gives you something to hope for. Whatever it is, I hope it brings you light and meaning deep inside.
You've got a great fondness for Wonder Woman and often call yourself Wonder Bea. What part of her do you identify with the most?
Wonder woman has been my childhood inspiration since I was a teenager. I admired her principles, her strength, and I admired that she tied her strength to compassion, justice, and love. This was very different from all the typical superheroes people would watch in movies or read in comic books. Now that I have grown into a woman, I identify with her innate strength and her ability to mobilize people for a greater cause such as female empowerment and gender equality. I like that when I take on leadership roles I am able to emulate her principles as well.
Does it help to look up to someone who embodies your ideal self?
Is your idol or mentor someone worth looking up to? If yes, then of course it helps. My perpetual life idol is a fictional character built by feminist psychologist, Dr. William Moulton-Marston in the 1940s, who believed women were best suited in leadership roles and roles with power. It helps to have real-life mentors too and not just an ideal image. In all the self-development courses I’ve delved into, they always emphasize choosing mentors that will grow your character in different aspects of your life. I have mentors in my profession as an orthodontist, for my writing projects, in relationship psychology, and life mentors too. I prefer mentors over coaches because the fundamental difference of mentors is that they help you learn by telling you their experiences whereas coaches ask you questions that help you understand the direction you want. If there’s one thing I’ve gotten a knack of, it’s learning through the experiences of others.
Do you have any tips on setting life and career goals effectively?
What’s helped me stay on track on setting goals is first visualizing the kind of woman I have always wanted to be. I would ask myself: What are her principles? What are her standards? What gives her meaning? Who should she surround herself with? And most importantly, what is she willing to fight for?
Once I am able to identify the answers, I set realistic short term and long term goals into developing myself into this woman. I understand that it isn’t easy for most people. The answers to such questions may not come as easily or they may not come at all. Well, it is never too late to start re-discovering what you want, or who you are and what you’ve always wanted to be. Or, if you’re already there, how you can realign yourself back to an intended purpose. Most of the time, people will give so much advice on how to set goals and manage them effectively but I think the common denominator of it all is to just have the persistence and firm resolution to be better, to do better and to learn from your mistakes and experiences.
What's your favourite way to unwind?
Honestly, it doesn’t take much for me to unwind. I love reading and getting lost in books while listening to soft music. If I am particularly stressed I call a friend or I set an intentional meditation time.
What's a life advice you find yourself always going back to?
Life is a journey with many long and winding roads. You will meet many people along the way and have much heartache too, but it's all part of the adventure. When our journey comes to a close, the dream is to say that you made the most out of it all.
How do you deal with failures or setbacks?
I deal with setbacks mainly by reframing my thoughts. I never see failures or setbacks as something negative, I see them as opportunities for growth.
If you cut out all the unnecessary noise, you’ll find that the most resilient people aren’t those that have the jollies temperaments or most positive outlook in life—they're those that have this common understanding that it’s okay to stumble every once in awhile, and that it’s more important to be brave and try and fail, instead of always trying to attain perfection and not try at all for fear of failing. Failing and making mistakes is part of the process, you don’t learn or challenge yourself by always being right or by always winning.
What's your advice for women who want to start something new like a business or pursue higher education?
My advice is to first and foremost have a timeline and to strategize. Secondly, take something that you feel passionate about, that you know will definitely grow your skills and acumen in whatever field you would like to invest in or are already invested in. Lastly, have realistic goals and expectations about achieving higher education.
What made you wanna sign up for the SHEeo Society Club?
Honestly, as I paved through my late twenties, my desire to have a sense of community with women grew. With the COVID, I found this need hampered. I stumbled upon the society and fell in love with what it was promising: a lifetime of female empowered friendship and camaraderie that focuses on empowerment instead of competition.
The SHEeo Society has helped me push for marketing myself post-pandemic. It helped provide clarity in what I wanted for my business. And probably I’ll use all that I learned to rebrand myself further into other endeavors.
What do you like most about being part of the SHEeo Society Club?
The main thing that I love about the SHEeo Society is that it offers a sense of community among like-minded individuals who are trying to reach the same goals and help each other in the process. The access to so many talented and amazing women is just what I need to learn to become a better person by simply listening to their stories, getting inspired by their wins and ultimately working with them to develop my business as well.
Written by Chin Ann Obiedo; Shot from home by Bea Dominguez, Produced by The SHEeo Society – Modesty Mae, Cami Alviz, Alyanna Nebreja
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