I've had the most to unlearn when I started paying attention to my healing. 7 cycles, that's how many times I've had to go through my painful patterns before fully acknowledging that things have to change in my life. I remember feeling the discomfort of finally being honest to myself and admitting that it's all in my own doing why I haven't reached my full potentials.
I was one of those people before… too caught up in the past, felt like a victim that needs vindication, and so on. I remember feeling so attacked and so alone. I couldn't make any connections at all. And I was even blinded to see the people who are genuinely there for me. Walls were up as if anyone, no matter the good intentions or evil motive, is out there to get me.
That chapter of my life was so crazy that it affected everything — my relationships, family, work, and well-being.
Letting go of painful patterns in our lives needs a lot of work. First, you have to go through the discomfort of growth. For me, that's admitting to myself where I went wrong, what pained me, and identifying what's holding me back even if it's so uncomfortable. I listed them all down. Opening up all past wounds and triggering some memories I've worked so hard to forget. It feels uneasy at first, but I've made peace with each and every past experience + person that caused me pain.
Second is the unbecoming everything that's no longer you. When I was younger, I had this chic idea of success. Thanks to The Devil Wears Prada, I've always visualized myself in the shoes of Miranda Priestly. No matter how cruel she was at first, I relate with her in so many ways as I grew older. And what's to unlearn? Well, my idea of success and all the sacrifices that go with it.
Lastly, going through this process of sustained healing. I realized that every day is a chance to learn, unlearn, and relearn something. Unlearning comes in many shapes, sizes, and different forms, like watching an old movie and finally having empathy towards another character you used to hate. Or listening to a song that you never understood the meaning of before, but now you do.
This month of August will be all about Unlearning and how it is the highest form of learning for growth. Together, we'll learn how to unlearn, let go of our unwanted patterns, identify the things that hold us back, and make peace with everything that no longer serves our purpose.
Aug 10, Tues, 5PM PHT, Zoom
Coffee & Convo – The Power of Unlearning
Unlearning the Misinformation on the Women’s Cycle and using our “flow” as a means to our productivity
Hosted by Dona Tumacder-Esteban, SHEeo of Inner Moon Well-being
Presented by Nala Woman
Aug 19, Thurs, 5PM PHT, Zoom
Club Clarity Sessions – The SHEeo’s Guide to being Visible with Maine Uy, The SHEeo
Ever wondered how you can be an authority in your industry? By being visible! But being visible can be so many things… In this Webinar, we’ll share with you how you can be a Visible SHEeo, work to your strength, and be an authority in own your space.
Aug 26, Thurs, 5PM PHT, Clubhouse
In the House – Unlearning for the Soul
A conversation on how can we let go of painful patterns in life. And develop new and empowering patterns for sustained healing and growth 🌱
Hosted by Maine Uy and Frida Soerensen
P.S. You can get your Club Passes here.